Friends can make an affair situation better or worse. The cheaters so-called friends are often catalyst that can tip the cheater one way or the other. They can encourage the affair or discourage it, depending on their values. When such friends encourage affairs, they function like a terrorist group filled with secrets, relish in doing things destructive to your marriage, enjoy the emotional drama and enjoy the turmoil and show that surrounds the affairs. You and yoru spouse do not need friends like that, no matter how “fun” they might appear.
A good friend will be willing to confront and get things out in the open, rather than hide behind secrets and loyalties. Loyalty is typically a good thing, until it is used to conceal wicked acts. (Yes, I consider an affair wicked in consideration of the destruction it brings to all it touches, and its immorality). Those friends may say that they just want the cheater to have ‘fun’ and have some happiness in their life, yet in reality they are contributing to your spouses emotional, relational, spiritual and physical destruction. Affairs always end in death, be they emotional, relational, spiritual or physical.
It is important to know who your spouses friends are and the kind of influence they are in their life. Your marriage may depend on what kind of friends the cheater has.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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2 Responses
Your artcile “Bad friend are your worst enemy”- is an unique piece to remember. Please advice me how I, a lady of 29 years from India, would be cured from obsessive love addiction including how to get rid from the bad friends. My relation with my parents, real friends who would have been my support during future crisis, has been lost due to these terrorist group, who relished my emotional agony and enjoy the turmoil, connected to my addiction to a boy for last 17 years, as school level class mate ( not at college or University level). How I could get rid of the addiction and these bad friends. with regards.
Shaptadvipa,
Thanks for writing. bad friends are even harder to get rid of when there are strong connections. Bad friends can poison even the good relationships. The best place to start in dealing with bad friends is developing healthy boundaries. You may have to start small and build your way up.