Some cheaters will tell you that indulging in pornography after their affair is a ‘safer’ alternative than cheating. Such practices may have them physically at home, but emotionally they remain attached to the object of their lust.
Their body may be with you, but their heart is not. Such practices of using pornography to stave off an affair relapse is akin to ‘controlled’ drinking as a way to deal with alcoholism.
Pornography arouses and awakens desires making them more vulnerable to affairs. They may tell you “It’s a safe way” of handling their desires. What they call ‘safe’ may be creating a ticking time bomb for later detonation.
Pornography is better than them hiring hookers, it keeps them at home but it weakens the spirit of your marriage.It also weakens their self-control.
When the cheater already has impulse control problems, the pornography makes the problem worse. Pornography also keeps the parts of the brain activated that contributed to the affair.
During the time of recovery from an affair, you need healing and rebuilding of the spirit of the marriage rather than something that acts like a corrosive and weakens it.
When you are ready to start transforming your marriage, consider the “Affair Recovery Workshop”. You can have the tools for changing your relationship, your communication and how your home runs.
Best Regards,
Jeff
