This year is starting out with a ‘humdinger’ of a question from a reader. They asked “Is it possible to leave a long term marriage?”
On the surface, you can walk out of any marriage with the assistance of a lawyer and a judge. They can take the steps that legally dismantle your marriage. The dismantling functions like a salvage operation where they cash in on taking apart the legal obligations.
Psychologically, the answer is very different. The lawyers can end your legal marriage, but the psychological and spiritual aspects aren’t so easily severed.
The marriage in your head and heart never ends, even with a judge’s decree. The decree says things are ended, yet inside, the relationship goes on.
The bonding that happened is on-going. No judge can sever that.
You can legally leave a long-term marriage, yet you can never leave it psychologically. It never lets you go. The bonding that happen continues influencing your thinking and emotions throughout your life.
You can ignore those bonds and try silencing them, but they’ve become a part of you. You can even use an affair as a way of drowning out those bonds, but even that doesn’t remove them.
Neuroscientists know that those changes that happened in your head will always be there. Medications and electroshock interventions only temporarily disrupt them. The strongest of interventions don’t remove the bonds.
The long term marriage never leaves you no matter how many lawyers you hire. This also means that betrayals that happen in those long term marriage need resolution whether or not the two of you stay together.
When the bonds and scars stay with you, it’s a serious concern. Rather than being burdened with the emotional pain that comes with betrayal, you can instead have some healing.
This is where the material in “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” helps. Although you can’t remove them from your head, you can find ways of healing those old hurts. There are ways of letting go of the haunting messages that continue hounding you and stealing your peace of mind.
When you question whether or not you can leave a long term marriage, its really about wanting some closure and peace of mind in moving past some painful hurts.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
