One phrase I often hear in dealing with affairs is “But I love him! (her)”. It usually is place at the end of a long string of faults identified with the person or the situation. When you or someone says the phrase, it magically negates everything that went before. This situation tells me that mentally you are fully aware of many issues and problems with the relationship. It also tells me that although aware of those problems, you are choosing to ‘cancel’ them out or that by adding love to the situation, it makes it all fine.
Love is truly a good thing. In this situation, love is not truly blind. You see all the problems. despite seeing the problems, you are choosing to not take action on them. In the name of ‘love’ you are cancelling out all the action that needs to be taken. If it is your spouse that you love, this can be a good thing. If it is the lover, you are making excuses for inaction on your part. Rather than use love as an excuse for inaction, consider how things would change if you used it as a motivation for action.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
