You may have been reading the recent posts about the “Conspiracy of Secrecy’. Another aspect of the secrecy is the ‘fairy tale’ world in which the cheater often lives. You may call it “La-la Land”, the “Make believe World” or some other personal label. Whatever you call it, the cheater lives in an unreal world. In their world, they can indulge their fantasies without consequences. The connection between cause and effect is magically dissolved. With no consequence to their action, they believe that they can indulge in whatever wicked dream they can concoct. Although they do not see or acknowledge the consequences to their actions, that does not mean that there are none. While in this fog-like world, they do not see things. Like a child, they assume what they do not see, does not exist. They want to live in a world where they are the God of their lives, and no other God exists.
The rude awakening that comes with reality remains alive and well. There are consequences to their actions, there are ripple effects from what was done. There is a God that they will have to come to terms with. The sad part is that many cheaters do not have the epiphany of the rude awakening until it is too late. Only when they are in pain from their bad choices or poor health from the affair that they ‘wake up’. In some cases, getting the foggy thinking out of them may take years. Like a hog that continues running to the mud after being cleaned up, the cheater often seeks returning to their old ways. They had a taste of something that they can not get enough of. This is part of their sick thinking. The reality is that another taste or contact will settle them. The sample does not settle them down. It whets their appetite for more. It awakens their cravings. You may have to pull them back many times before they finally leave the lover with their body, their heart, their soul and their mind.
If you want to know more, I address many of the issues of waking them up in my e-book on surviving your partners affair.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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This is very difficult for people to understand …It has taken many years for them to ‘learn’ to make decisions by way of peer groups, feelings, trends .etc…but God has instructed us to learn from HIM . He told parents to ‘train up their children in the way that they should go and when they are old they should not depart from it ‘ …that would be one great way to lay a solid foundation of truth in the mind of a child .
For many of us we have had a very slight exposure to the Bible …and if it has not been the ‘rule’ of the household there have been many other avenues of learning that have influenced the growing up years with input from media, government curriculum scientifically designed to program the world’s view of life and many other kinds of information that have no grounds in the truth that GOD reveals through his word by way of His spirit…which Jesus said IS his word.
Without knowledge from GOD the people perish . God told us ‘My people are DESTROYED for LACK of knowledge’ …it is not just knowledge from all kinds of experiences that we gain as we grow up ..but we need wisdom ..and understanding that comes by way of APPLYING the word of GOD once we have taken it to heart.
The heart is deceitful according to God and desperately wicked…man does not know his own heart but he thinks it is ‘good’ …God knows it ..and has supplied his WORD which he calls the ‘sword of the spirit’ which ‘divides assunder the thoughts and intentions and exposes it to US so we can see it’s very darkened condition which is the state we are in as we live adrift from having the word taught to us and our lives trained to obey it .
Parents who have not been made aware of their own need for God’s word may not realize they do not have it …maybe they go TO church but have not realized the intent of the LORD was to BE lord of their lives and thus they are to BE the church ..the very body of Christ
Children growing up without this guidance lose out …parents do to …I have learned so much about all of life from my desire to make sure my children did not grow up without the most important knowledge of the LORD and how to have a personal relationship by daily meeting with him in the word ..
To learn how to live without being damaged by deceit ..either from what we THINK we know or what others influence us to believe because we may not KNOW what wisdom is from GOD’S view is a very sad thing.
As an adult learning about the Lord later in my youth I realized how many things might have been avoided in my life had I known more about the Bible and the Lord who bought me .
“Getting saved’ was not the end of it …becoming a follower and learning from HIM all about what the many pitfalls of life were and how to avoid them by my making wise choices based upon HIS word and wisdom has been a life long walk…I only wish I had known sooner …but it has been all part of learning and walking …even having to look at mistakes and deceptions of the past.
For those who grow up without the truth of God’s word ..either from wrong teachings and false doctrines or from ignorance…life can be very difficult to avoid hurting others or themselves
The warnings and equippings from GOD through the knowledge of His word and from a relationship with Jesus Christ is beyond price.
The fantasy of ‘life’ offered to people by way of deceitful doctrines and satanic lures to sin only open the doorways of the mind for more and more ‘suggestions’ from the enemy of GOD and man.
When a person has no knowledge from an ongoing learning from God’s word they have NOTHING to evaluate where their thoughts are coming from
God tells us that ‘out of the heart come the issues of life’ …the ‘heart’ in this case is the depth of our minds…
He tells us in the first commandment to love HIM with ALL our heart, ALL our soul , ALL our MIND and all our strength ..this is DONE by ‘keeping my commandments’ …or ‘this is love …keep my words’
Without the WORD in our minds and received with meekness and desire to learn more and to obey what we learn …asking HIM to help us …people are ‘unarmed ‘ against suggestions to follow after their lusts , feelings and desires.
Those who enter into an adulterous relationship have been deceived because they either do not realize the USE of this sin to destroy not only their own lives but the lives of many whose lives they touch ..including the person they commit adultery with ..be they married or not .
It is to take what does not belong to them AND to violate their own body and the one flesh of the marriage ..the body is the very TEMPLE of GOD
Solomon’s temple was actually only a type of the human body ..built upon the specifications that GOD gave …to indicate that the Lord would demonstrate and inform us that the temple HE dwells in in truth is NOT made with hands….but is OUR BODY
Imagine what it might me to people if they took this to heart as it is TRUTH …OUR bodies were bought with a price..they are NOT OUR OWN . The world ..the flesh and the devil like to promote sinful thoughts which lead to sinful behaviors because it puts that person IN CAPTIVITY to the unseen realm of the devil …who HAS the power to enslave all those who listen to him ..and obey ‘him’ ..their fleshly urges without regard for what GOD has warned us of the proper and holy purposes that he has blessed all of us with .
ALL of what GOD made is GOOD …but it is to be protected by the boundaries of making godly choices according to HIS WISDOM as his word has offered to those who care about such things
Many might care but have been deceived from early on in life because they have not been trained up by parents who should have known this ..the government programing has set many generations on a course of destruction and slavery to sin …and thus …a life that is devoid of hope…and truth.
Fantasy and magical thinking have infected even those who GO to church as many do not ‘seek truth in scripture ‘ and do not KNOW the things GOD has provided for us so that we may KNOW ..
Without understanding all of what our purpose is in life ..and the purpose of marriage …the purpose of sexual intercourse …people are left without hope ..and do not realize the great blessings and priviledges of these things…they have MISSED the POINT of life and loving .
YET God offers to “WHOMSOEVER” the scriptures and His ability to guide us into all truth if we will be willing to seek …and obey whatever we do learn ..
As we continue to be faithful to continue we are thus continually cleansed …taught …and provide more and more understanding of His will and our part as His children
The simplistic ways that people have been reduced in just the ability to THINK has been a product of the plan to dumb down generations to reduce them to ‘cogs’ and ‘resources’ for the STATE.
I pray that those who are stumbling in the darkness of the morass of media influence will be awakened …by whatever it takes to seek the way to be recovered out of the darkness of the systems of this world …and the enemy of the soul
Jesus Christ IS the ONLY WAY …provided for those who are in the depths of darkness and perversity
May they turn to seek deliverance from the seductress of this worlds lying offerings…the truth of the life that GOD intended for all of his children is awaiting and it is SO MUCH MORE than people think who think they KNOW what the Bible says .
He will teach …through his words…that we receive into our minds and remain thoughtful of them
He has said at times throughout the word that he will SHAKE ALL THINGS…this usually leaves onlly what is solid standing …in many lives …as the foundation of one’s life is shaken by some consequence of sin ..either their own or that of someone close …it is actually a BLESSING in that whatever gets our attention to seek GOD in Jesus Christ is worth it …sad …sorrowful as it may be …ETERNITY is so much more important than anything else one may find they ‘need’ in this limited lifetime.
Seek the Lord while he may be found …is good advice!
When you do not faint but continue to pursue Him he said HE WILL BE FOUND …and he has warned against seeking signs, wonders’, and feeling based offerings coming in his name.
HE is found in His words.
Mat 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Zaza,
You are correct. The Bible is the antidote for the poison of the adult fairy tales of modern society.