Are you proud of your spouse? If you are, do you let them know that? They need your praise and encouragement more than those from others.
If you assume that they know that you love them and appreciate them, you may be making a foolhardy assumption. Many spouses have been lured away by seducers who give them flattery and encouraging words that they have not heard from their spouses.
When they’re desperate for attention and love, the flattery of seducers has a powerful impact. Never underestimate the power of well placed or well timed words.
Once a seducer charms your spouse’s heart, it is an easy task to charm them into the bedroom.Their body often follows where their heart leads. The sad part is that many of these types of seductions could have been avoided by some well-placed words and encouragement from you.
Not all affairs come from neglect, although some do. Not all cheaters are narcissists. Some of them just need attention and encouragement from people that are important to them, like you.
In the case of narcissists, no amount of attention you give is enough. They want more attention than you or anyone else can give them. They also want the attention of you and every other person as well.
There are narcissists out there. There are also some spouses that are desperate to hear kind words of love and encouragement from you.
If you have not told your husband or wife that you love them and are proud of them, …do it. Don’t just plan to do it, …do it now. They need validation.
If you don’t validate them, someone else will. When a spouse feels loved, accepted and cared for, it is your best insurance against affairs.
If you have slacked off letting your spouse know you love them. If you aren’t sure where to begin or how to do it, there’s hope. In the “30 Days to a Better Marriage” product, you’ll receive daily assignments designed for turning your marriage around. Rather than settling for a marriage you can put up with, you can have a marriage that’s great.
Best Regards,
Jeff
