In a previous post, I mentioned “The Other Double-Standard” regarding the double standard in media and popular culture regarding affairs. This post goes into the topic of “Incredible Stories: The Third Double Standard”. Since cheaters often tell some incredible stories, it’s important to understand.
When you hear a wild, incredible story from a cheater, what is your first reaction? They expect you to believe it, you may want to believe it, yet the nature of the story is so ‘incredible’ it is not believable.
You know from dealing with the cheater that when they tell you something that incredible… it probably isn’t true. Why else would you call the story ‘incredible’?
The word ‘incredible’ itself means ‘something that which cannot be believed’.
Even the structure of the word (in + credible). Credible means believable while the ‘in’ prefix here means without. So you are dealing with something that is ‘not to be believed’. Your doubting of such stories shows that you have good common sense.
Where things get weird in terms of the double standard is that when the cheater enters the courtroom, those ‘incredible stories’ are now believable to judges and lawyers. You find the answer to your question “Who in their right mind would believe that?”
The answer is lawyers and judges are the ones that believe the cheater’s ‘incredible stories’.
When the location of incredible stories changes to a court room, the incredible suddenly changes into ‘plausible’. What should never be believed gets twisted into something that you have to defend against.
When incredible stories are told in the court room, you’ll find yourself scrambling in countering them. Incredible stories magically change into credible ones in a court room.
Those story tellers who are not to be believed now have a willing audience, and you find yourself on trial rather than the person making up the way out incredible tales.
The paid court room audiences are even willing to believe the cheater’s stories. All the cheater has to do is convince them that their story is ‘possible’.
This is the ‘third double standard’.
The first being how affairs are viewed in terms of whether you are a man or a woman.
The second being how affairs are used for entertainment, yet considered ‘adults only’ or off limits by the same media. I’ve also called this the ‘other double-standard’.
The third being how incredible stories about affairs are not to be believed, until they show up in the court room.
The third double-standard can be prevented. The sooner you take action toward recovering from the affair and dealing with the issues, the less power this double-standard has.
The downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop” guides you through what you need to know in recovering from an affair. The sooner you start facing the issues, the lower the risk of the third double-standard ruining your life.
Best Regards,
Jeff
