A major challenge in overcoming an affair is accepting the truth. Although I have mentioned telling yourself the truth in previous posts, that is just the beginning. The next step is accepting that truth. You will have to accept what your partner did and who they did it with. You may not like that reality, but it is what happened. Once you can accept the truth, then you can come up with ways of dealing with it. A common mistake made is when the spurned spouse deals with preventing the truth. Trying to prevent what has already occurred is a waste of time and energy. The only major accomplishment will be the venting of your spleen, not the reconciliation or repair of your marriage.
So what I have laid out is:
Tell yourself the truth——> Then accept that truth
The more realistically you can be in accepting the truth, the more realistic solutions you can develop in responding to the affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
