Moving past the affair is always preferred to constantly reliving the affair. Your mind replays the events associated with the affair without a power off switch. With each instant replay, there’s a triggering of the emotions as well.
You see the replay in your mind and feel all the pain in your heart and gut.The re-triggering of the emotions leaves you experiencing the trauma once again.
The affair becomes a movie loop, constantly replaying itself over and over. The affair is more irritating than a record that skips and does a lot more damage.
Moving on means changing things. It may mean changing your thinking, or changing your behaviors or changing the way you treat others or changing your friends.
To have something different, you’ve got to do something different.
Doing the same things over and over only get you more of what you got before. If you want ‘different’ you have to do things different.
The upcoming Christmas holiday is a wonderful time for making changes. This time of year provides surroundings that make changes easier.
If you are like many people, there’s a part of you resisting the needed changes. You will benefit from your surroundings this time of year. The change in seasons and mood of those around you will make change seem possible and be easier to happen.
Attempting changes at other times of the year often means you have to risk overcoming the security of routine. This time of year can provide you with the added energy you need to make changes and stick with them.
The want to has been there, but the follow through is fickle. Now you can give the power to the want to and make those changes.
Moving past the affair may includes forgiving or asking forgiveness. There is no guarantee that the offended party will forgive or that it is even safe to ask for forgiveness directly.
Rather than let your fears dominate your thinking, you can choose to start the process. You can take one step in that direction. With each step you take toward forgiving, there will be a little more relief. It often takes more energy to keep a grudge going than it does to forgive or ask forgiveness.
In the video, “Forgiveness, Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks”, you’ll know what to do. You’ll know the specifics needed to get forgiveness started’.
Use the season to your advantage.
Best Regards,
Jeff
