Do you recognize evil when you encounter it? If you are like most people, you do not. Sure, when the evil is dark, controlling and seeking your destruction, it is easy to recognize.
When evil is not recognized is when it is appealing to your senses and needs. When evil is enticing you, it’s hard seeing it for what it is.
Your affair or your spouse’s affair may not have seemed evil when it began. If cheater saw the evil that the affair would end up generating, they would not have gone looking for an affair. When you see how things will end up, you make different choices.
Evil often hides its true nature. With affairs, the emotions themselves are not evil, it is the circumstances that start the process of generating evil. I use the term generating evil, because the longer the affair goes on, the more evil there is in the form of lies, deception, and deceit.
Although it may start off innocent enough, the relationship transforms into something that generates evil. The evil often begins with white lies and subtle deception. You may choose to leave out a few details, or not tell something. You may have even forgotten. Whatever the motive, these white lies, omissions and forgetful moments begin piling up.
One of the devious aspects of evil is that it often shows up unexpectedly. The evil intentions may not have been with you, your spouse or the lover. It could have all started innocently. Evil has a way of changing innocent into ugly. It is a form of emotional alchemy.
Affairs transform legitimate needs, emotions and interactions into something evil through their special alchemy. It functions like an anti-alchemy, where instead of turning things into gold, it takes the gold and turns it into something heavy and ugly. It takes beautiful people, and innocent intentions, and turns them into their basest passions.
There are also people driven by evil that will use the affair to make things uglier, along with encouraging the affair to go deeper and spread. These people thrive on the negative energy surrounding the affair.
What makes this worse is that many of those people may be your so-called friends and family members. The anti-alchemy of the affair touches them as well. This is one of the deceptive dangers of affairs.
The affair promises to be ‘just between us two adults’, yet before it is over, it generates evil all around to the point that family members and friends have chasms in their relationships and unthinkable acts becomes more probable.
So, yes, affairs are evil. They may be a beautiful side of evil, but they are evil. You need to recognize the evil for what it is and not be tricked by its appeal.
If you’ve been fooled by an affair, there’s hope. The “Affair Recovery Workshop” gives you and your spouse the tools needed for clearing away bad choices and bad experienced. You need ways of moving past what happened and building a better marriage. The workshop provides you a way of making that happen.
Best Regards,
Jeff
