The latest ploy on sites encouraging adultery is the meme “You won’t get caught”. This latest meme is very telling.
Have you considered what is says when your motivation for an affair is ‘not getting caught’? This meme operates on an immature level of moral maturity. It assumes that right and wrong are about what you get caught doing.
If your sense of ‘right’ is what you get away with, morality becomes external. Your morality at that point is driven by what others think of you and what society approves or disapproves.
When your level of moral choices is whether or not you get caught, there are more issues going on that just the affair. You need a conscience with a solid base. You need an internal conscience rather than seeking external approval and hiding from external disapproval. If external disapproval guides your morality, you’re out of control of yourself.
Besides being controlled by external forces, you are also an easy mark for con men. When not getting caught is your driving force, you’re vulnerable to blackmail. A con man could easily blackmail you by threatening exposure. With the latest ads posing ‘You won’t get caught’, they’re also counting on cheaters acting on impulse. Like a fish biting a baited hook, they lure the cheater in.
The adultery promoters also give the subtle reassurance “I promise not to tell (wink, wink)”. I add the ‘wink, wink’ based on the Ashley Madison data hack. Those services maintain records of who uses them. They know who cheats and what it takes to lure them in. When there are records, there’s the possibility of hacks. There’s always a trail of evidence.
By subtly promising “You won’t get caught” they getting the cheater to believe something they can’t deliver. There is always evidence of cheating.
The cheater is being fooled, yet allows themselves to fall for it. The excuse “you won’t get caught”, allows their conscience to think “it’s okay”. The meme gives them a believable fantasy. For some, having a believable fantasy gives them permission to act.
Best Regards,
Jeff
