“Put this on your windshield and it will keep things from blurring” It was the first time I was introduced to a product that kept my windshield from blurring whether due to rain or fogging.
That little helpful hint from Jerry helped me from then on. I became a firm believer in the product. Having clear vision has made a world of difference in avoiding dangers.
When my windshield is clear, I travel without hesitations and fears.
I’ve often wished there was such a product for marriage and family issues. In today’s society, there is so much blurring going on, it makes navigating through marriage and family concerns difficult at best.
In modern society, the definition of many things have intentionally been blurred, so that it is harder to see things clearly. The difference between right and wrong has been blurred. The definition of marriage and family have been blurred. Even down to basic speaking your mind, things have been blurred.
When your choices and options are blurred, knowing what to do becomes a guessing game. It becomes a gamble anytime you take action on dealing with an affair.
When things are blurred, you also loose confidence in your choices and direction for you life. Each day becomes a struggle rather than making progress toward a goal or enjoying life.
Many cheaters know this. They intentionally blur the questions and issues surrounding affair. When everything is blurry, they can manipulate your emotions much easier.It’s not just the cheaters either. Popular media has also done its part in blurring all the issues surrounding infidelity.
Besides blurring making clear choices more difficult, it also has a disorienting effect. When the issues are blurred, you loose all your familiar reference points. When those are not seen, you may find yourself starting to trust emotions rather than morals.
Letting emotions guide you makes you easier to manipulate. Right and wrong them become a matter of who is more emotionally persuasive. If they can emotionally move you, they can control you.
One way cheater blur the issues is by distracting you with intentions. When you are distracted by intentions, you don’t see the facts. You may hear “I never meant to hurt you” or “This is not what I intended”.
Another way is through changing definitions. By calling the lover terms like aunt or uncle, it twists the family structures. It makes the affair easier to sell to the kids, yet blurs what’s really happening.
A third way of blurring comes from telling so many lies, you don’t know what’s true or what to believe any more. When your told enough lies, you don’t know what is true. It’s at that point, they can manipulate everything. They can pick and choose which lies are presented as truths.
These guides will help you through some of the common ways of blurring things. Here at SurviveYourPartnersAffair.com, we have resources helping you gain clarity in dealing with affairs.
Rather than getting by on emotional hoping and wishing, you can know what to do when it comes to rebuilding your marriage, restoring trust and reducing the risk of affair relapse.
Best Regards,
Jeff
