On reading news reports of how mature married teachers end up sleeping with their students you start asking questions. You may wonder “How” something like that could happen. You may also want to dismiss the event as something that could never happen, until it does.
A phrase often heard when discussing affairs is “She’s not the same person”. The betrayed talks about their spouse using words and phrases about how they are different. Along with such phrases are mentions of how their spouse is doing things that they would never do in their marriage. This often happens after they discover texts or emails.
As the devastated spouse, you’re left broken and bewildered at such revelations. You discover a world you never knew existed. You discover that the man or woman you married is very different in their communications and behavior. It’s as if you find yourself living with an alien! They are now doing and talking about things they’d never even consider before.
You may find yourself staring in disbelief at the evidence before you, thinking ‘This has got to be a big mistake!’ You may even have to pinch yourself in some way as a reminder that ‘This is real’.
You wonder “How did that happen?” What changed your spouse?
The answer in such cases is …’Creepers‘. The creepers look for openings into your spouse’s life. Once they find their way in, they begin grooming them for the affair. It may start off with some off-color jokes, or phrases with double-meanings. On the surface, such ploys look innocent, yet in reality, they are part of the creeper’s seduction.
Words grow more seductive and often open the door to photos and images intended to arouse. The know that the greater the arousal, the faster the seduction. They often use curiosity as a way of opening the back door into your spouse’s life.
After sneaking into their victim’s life, the creeper takes them further down into depravity. They take them deeper and deeper into sleazy areas. Like an animal, they take their victims back into their den or hole. Your spouse begins entertaining thoughts that were ‘off limits’ with you, yet with the creeper, there seems to be nothing that’s taboo.
The excitement of entering forbidden areas and topics is captivating for the cheater. You see the dingy depraved hole for what it is, while the cheater only sees the excitement.
Once the cheater has been snared mentally, the creeper continues with their plan. After the mental seduction comes the physical seduction. The creeper know that all they need to do is arouse lusts in the right way and their victim starts seducing them. All they need to do is arouse your spouse and then unleash them.
The scary thing is that the workplace and neighborhoods are teeming with creepers looking for those they can exploit. Creepers know the behavioral ‘tells’ that signal marital problems or tensions. since creepers are experienced seducers, they operate like a well-oiled machine.
With most creepers, by the time you wake up to the danger, damage has been done. Even when the creeper is gone, the poison they left behind is dangerous for your marriage.
If you suspect creepers are threatening your marriage, the time for action is now. Your marriage needs help. Attend the relationship recovery webinar that will start your marriage heading in a good direction so that you are not so vulnerable to creepers.
Best Regards,
Jeff
2 Responses
Very insightful post Jeff, which resonated with me. In my opinion, my wife had several creepers that opened the possibilities to her. Immoral friends/coworkers influenced with sleezy talk and their personal escapades. Fifty Shades of Grey entered the scene at the same time, the must-read for that same group. And of course social media, with everybody doing it, also was the conduit for the old flame creeper to reenter. Five years has passed but the sadness of it hasn’t. Even though we’re still together struggling, the impact is felt through the family and friends daily.
Untold,
Thank you for sharing your experience with ‘creepers’. One creeper is bad enough, but having to handle several at the same time is very challenging.
The Fifty Sades of Grey phenomena is definitely creeper friendly. I’ve always considered many of the romance novels as ‘porn for women’ since it often triggers vivid word pictures and fantasies. Fifty Shades of Grey takes a ‘deep dive’ beyond porn and into S&M (IMHO). In many ways it strikes me as another attempt at seducing a female public into accepting S&M. My own unofficial assumption is that part of the success is driven by the increased number of women who now enjoy porn as well.
The Fifty Shades definitely took things beyond the edge of the envelope. The popularity definitely created a ‘groupthink’ mindset. Since all the ‘cool kids’ are doing it, there was peer pressure to read it. On reading it, the door is thrown wide open for creeper types to exploit, which happened.
Fifty Shades does not show the consequences of such behavior. If they did, it would not be so popular. The scars it leaves are real. I’ll have another post coming out soon on the Creeper’s poison, which is one of the many scars they leave behind even years later.
Best Regards,
Jeff