You can learn a lot from watching nature. Once, when my family and I visited the Aransas National Wildlife Refuge, we saw the drama of a snake eating a small frog. The helpless cries from the frog being swallowed by the snake is what grabbed my attention. I felt helpless watching the snake take off with its recently captured prize.
The actions of the snake remind me of how creepers operate. Once they have a firm grasp after seducing their victims, they take them off and then down a sexual rabbit hole. Creepers thrive by preying on the emotional vulnerabilities of their victims, using sexual fantasy as a weapon. Afterwards, they feed off the energy that results from mutual hurt and destruction.
The pain caused in these relationships is like watching a snake swallow its prey. It’s done quickly without any remorse or consideration for what the victim feels or how much damage they inflict.
Creepers are goal driven. They have definite goals in mind they persist in going after. When their victim’s guard is down or they are weak-minded, they become easy prey. The creeper takes charge and executes their plan. Their sheer audacity often overwhelms the unprepared. Like the snake, they’re sneaky and stealthy.
The creeper’s name is derived from their sneaky behavior. When they are on a hunt for prey, they creep around like a cat stalking its prey. The creeper stays concealed until ready to strike or entice his victim into doing something regrettable.
I can only imagine the audacity of the snake when it first surprised the frog. It likely surprised the frog, suddenly emerging from its hiding place. When the frog realized what was going on, it was too late.
By the time some spouses wake up to the true nature of a creeper that’s been hunting them down like prey, its too late. The victim is emotionally captured and sinking deeper in treacherous waters. The creeper has captured their guard, so they are shy and vulnerable to the creeper’s sexual machinations.
The fact is that creepers have a knack for telling stories about themselves that cast them into heroic roles. They disguise their weaknesses by playing dominative roles while spinning compliments about how beautiful or sexy their victim is.
Since creepers don’t reveal their true nature until they have their victim secured and seduced, they wake up too late. what good does screaming or asking for help do, when there is no one around to rescue them?
When given the opportunity, creepers take their victims deeper into sexual circles. The initial seduction was only the beginning. The creeper’s goal is not seduction, it’s total control.
By controlling the way spouses think about themselves, creepers feel powerful and important. They are master manipulators, who build their victims up only to tear them down when it suits their purpose.
They take their victim down a rabbit hole of sexual pleasure and exploitation. They introduce them to a new circle of people. It is no longer a matter of one creeper, at this point the victim is facing a creeper mob. The sheer excitement of the intense feelings contains elements of excitement and revulsion that can overwhelm people and their morals.
When in the creepers grasp, the victim is so stimulated, that their moral codes and thinking are overloaded. The victim is in a situation that overpowers all senses and logic. Being enticed by the sexual pleasure, doesn’t allow the victim to use logic. Instead they rely on their feelings which are intense. The creeper was able to build up enough excitement within their victim; that the feeling of guilt, shame or regret becomes bearable while under their spell.
They may not approve of what they are doing, but their ability to resist, say no or leave are overwhelmed. The sensory overload gives the victim a total make-over.
The frog never escaped from the snake, but your spouse can be rescued from the creeper. There are things that you can do preventing the likelihood of the creeper returning. Your spouse had to regain their senses and reset their nervous system. Despite the reset, they’re vulnerable. You can reduce the risk with the video, “Preventing Affair Relapse “.
You can know ways of handling triggers, relapse warnings and other signs that they are vulnerable to another affair, even when they don’t want the affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff
