Having grown up during the Cold War, I often saw movies and heard stories about ‘brainwashing’. On hearing about it, I was intrigued. Questions ran through my mind as to how something like that happens.
On taking the advanced psychology courses, I finally learned the secrets of brainwashing. I read and re-read how those being brainwashed were so radically transformed.
Over time, I pieced together the other various nuances of brainwashing, including hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming and other methods of brain transformation.
I even took a course on how television is used in shaping peoples behaviors. Prior to that, I had never realized the power of programming. Up to that point, I thought I watched television for entertainment.
The surprising thing about brainwashing is how the subject finally accepts a whole new reality given to them. No matter how bizarre, they accept it without questioning it. It astounded me.
When I see some of those same techniques employed in changing society and culture, it bothers me. The fire alarms really go off when I see attempts at changing culture regarding marriage and affairs.
Your marriage has enough challenges without some ‘know-it-all’ social engineer using brainwashing techniques in getting culture to accept affairs and divorced families as ‘normal’ and routine.
I saw a recent article about how a couple was getting divorced so as not to offend the nanny lover by making her feel left out. When the story broke, within hours, it was international news.Think about that for a moment. A family with some of that ‘Austin-weirdness’ within hours is reported around the world. (If you lived here, you’d understand about the weirdness).
That’s when it occurred to me that this story and its spread was intentional. The writers of the story are openly working at ‘normalizing’ the affairs and lifestyle of this family.
The groups was presented in the news in a ‘family portrait’ pose in order to change your thinking about them. When they change the how the cheaters are presented, they end up changing the whole message.This amounts to brainwashing.
The really bizarre thing is that the family portrait was taken ‘in the bed’! (Talk about double-messages). Having the lover in a family portrait is bad enough, but …in the bed? with the kids?
Did your marriage troubles make international news? Did your spouse’s affair make headlines? Was a family portrait made of you, the cheater, the lover where the affair happened?
Unless your marriage problems or affair can be exploited to advance someone else’s agenda or change society, it probably didn’t. The papers weren’t filled with stories about my family when we faced an affair. The reporters didn’t take pictures of the “One Big Happy Family” complete with lovers and their attached ‘bonus children’.
The problem is I recognize brainwashing and propaganda techniques when I see them. The redefining of marriage and what’s normal is nothing more than another attack on your family and home. If you feel under attack at times, it’s because you are.
Forces are at work shaping culture in brainwashing you to accept new definitions of family and marriage.
The good news is that you can do something about it. Rather than feel like you are ‘weird’ or ‘not normal’ by all the redefining going on, you can do something about it.
You and your spouse can take advantage of the “30 Days to a Better Marriage Program“, which strengthens your marriage. With a stronger marriage, you can make yourself immune to the cultural brainwashing of redefining what it means to be married.
Best Regards,
Jeff
