In the aftermath of the US Women’s soccer team winning the world cup back in 2019, there were many comments and tweets made. One that grabbed my attention was the tweet, “Science is Science“.
The statement struck me as odd. Having grown up in a science-oriented home, the tweet struck me as nonsensical. (Remember, my dad was a rocket scientist at NASA who was suspicious of the ‘soft science’ of psychology that I was studying).
In studying the field of science, things are always changing. This is one of the wild paradoxes of science. What is considered ‘settled’ science is seldom settled. With each new discovery, the science behind it changes.
Although the public talks about science as if it is a series of concrete laws, the reality is that science is filled with theories and hypotheses. This is especially true when it comes to science and human behavior.
What is defined as ‘healthy’ human behavior changes. When the official catalogue of pathologies and disorders is revised every few years, it should tell you something. When the ‘official standard’ changes that much, it’s not based on scientific laws and evidence.
When standards change so often, they are based more on politics than on ‘proven’ science. If it was ‘true science’, it would be verifiable, repeatable and time proven.
I recall when I was in graduate school, some research on human behavior was considered ‘forbidden’. As a student I was not allowed to research certain behaviors because it may upset people. One topic I remember was that of comparing the behavior of children raised at home with both parents versus those considered latchkey children.
The topic was considered ‘off limits’ to explore. If official studies came out on the differences, it would upset some people. The functional definition of science that is presented to the public is that science confirms what is considered acceptable beliefs.
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Jeff
