Are you still feeling lousy after forgiving? If so, there’s a reason.
Feeling lousy after forgiving is a common problem. It’s more common than I’d like.
Actually, it’s so common, it bothers me. The part that bothers me is that it’s a preventable problem.
What’s happened is the wide spread prevalence of fake and shallow forgiveness. Many of you are operating under some bad assumptions about forgiveness.
It’s likely not your fault. There are few people who really know what forgiveness is and how it works. Forgiveness is one of those things that are talked about more than practiced.
I mean, where would you have learned about forgiveness? If your forgiveness classroom was the movies, you’re being led astray. Hollywood wants drama and emotional engagement, not truthful representations.
If your forgiveness classroom was the local church, many only present shallow awareness of forgiveness. Sure there are sermons on forgiveness, yet, putting it into action is often weak.
If your forgiveness classroom was the family, you may have learned a thing or two. Some families have learned about real forgiveness, yet most families just do what’s needed to keep the peace rather than genuine forgiveness.
One of the reasons for inadequate forgiveness is that it often breaks your heart. It forces you to get closer to those you are forgiving. If makes you grow whether you want to or not.
When your forgiveness doesn’t change you or give you insight, you’re likely caught up in shallow forgiveness. There’s a place for shallow forgiveness, but not when it comes to affairs.
In the video, “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks”, you’ll have step by step guidance through forgiveness. You’ll also know when forgiveness is needed and when repentance is needed along with knowing the difference between them.
There are signs to look for that alert you to those going through the motions verses heartfelt contrition. These things are knowable. Forgiveness no longer has to be a guessing game about whether or not they really mean what they’re saying.
Best Regards,
Jeff
