Those who have gone through an affair may find themselves asking the question, “Why can’t they (referring to family members) just move on?” The infidel is often stumped as to the reasons that those around them can’t progress. Since the infidel has moved on past their marriage, they expect others to be able to do so as well. The infidel does not realize that the affair caused emotional time to stand still in their family. The affair was a shock and stunning blow to the family. Since in many cases, they have their lover to comfort them, having an awareness of other people suffering due to their choice is beyond their comprehension.
The same selfish mindset that created the opportunity for the affair is often what keeps them from seeing its damaging effects on other people. The inability to see the effects on others is one attribute that infidels share with alcoholics and drug addicts. All three can not see and comprehend the depth and extent of the damage their actions have produced. Since they are focused on their own pain, when they are out of the pain, they often expect others to be out of the pain as well. It is headline news to them when the reality that other people were hurt as well as them finally reaches their awareness.
Much like wounded soldiers in war time who are unable to keep up with the comrades, family members wounded from an affair may not be able to keep up as the infidel moves on.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
