Do you want to be a better version of yourself? If so, do you know how to create a better version of yourself? Creating a better version of yourself isn’t just about being calmer and nicer. Being calmer and nicer is only window dressing.
Creating a better version of yourself, whether you are the betrayed or the cheater involves more.
I learned some hard lessons about creating new versions when I had to redo manuscripts for three of my books. It takes more than editing here, cutting there, and adding a few items.
New versions require a new vision, changing direction, doing things differently and new conclusions. These things are easier accomplished for books than relationships.
In marriage relationships, you need a new vision for your marriage. Making such a change requires you to change how you talk to each other, what you expect of each other and how you treat each other.
If your vision is merely to patch things up, it’ll only be a matter of time before things return to where they were by default. Changes are needed in your thinking and your behavior.
You also need a new foundation for your marriage. The old one is damaged. Making a new foundation means you need something solid to build your marriage on. That foundation needs more than some promises or hopes for the future.
The kind of radical change needed for a better version of yourself is massive. You also have to consider is that a better version by your standards or your spouse’s.
I’ve seen many couples in need of total makeovers, yet settle for just getting out from under the pain. They end up quitting before making real changes in their relationship. Are you just trying to reduce the pain or to finish the job of making your marriage better?
This is why my downloadable Affair Recovery Workshop includes directions on what kinds of changes are needed in your marriage after the affair as part of recovery. Knowing where to make changes makes the recovery process run smoother.
Click and download the workshop today so that you can start making a better version of yourself and your marriage rather than rearranging the deck furniture as your marriage is going down in crisis.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
