There are some questions that just jump out at you, like one of those 3-Dimensional greeting cards. The question has a way of coming off the page I was reading.
The most recent question that did that to me was “How does she cheat on me so easily?” The wording captures a husband’s desperate search for an answer. He’s stunned and expresses disbelief at what he recently discovered.
The husband is so overwhelmed, he’s not sure what to think. His mind is taking off in search of answers. He takes his wife’s cheating as a personal insult. He believes that she should have been faithful to him and can’t imagine any reason for her not to be faithful.
The husband is searching for a deeper meaning, something more than just finding out why his wife cheated on him. He wants to find out what drove her to do it in the first place. He needs some clarity and understanding so he can make sense of what happened.
During such times, your mind is so overloaded with disbelief and questions that you’re not sure where to begin. He’s not alone. There are other husbands and wives like yourself who are similarly stunned by how your spouse could do what they did.
What adds insult to injury is when they are flippant about their straying. The ease with which they do it sends the message “I don’t value my marriage!”.
Additionally, when the cheater appears so ‘at ease’ with what they’re doing, it raises questions of how long has this thing been going on.
I understand his struggle with this. I also know that the option of dumping the cheater at the first opportunity is also a concern.
If your marriage is worth saving, someone has to want to save it. When no one cares about your marriage, there’s little that can be done.
Saving it starts with you valuing your marriage relationship. This means seeing beyond the immediate hurt and temptation to lash out. It also means being willing to look at the bigger picture and trying to find out what happened.
Valuing your marriage also means working through the pain rather than running from it. At such times, your marriage needs help. This is where the Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. In the downloadable workshop, you’ll learn ways of changing the direction of your marriage and how your marriage is done.
Something is clearly not working. Instead of beating yourself up with painful questions, you can instead be taking steps at transforming your marriage.
Click and download your copy today. Valuing your marriage means you’re willing to put forth effort in saving it.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
