A husband approached me wanting answers to his situation. He felt torn in many ways about how to handle the matter.
His wife had an affairs years before and only recently came clean with him and asked for forgiveness. Old affairs, like old leftovers have a stench about them.
Sure, the affair is long over and your wife spouse is still with you, although what happened leaves you surrounded by questions and emotions.
You, like the husband, are confused about what to believe about your relationship with your wife.
You know what you see and experienced, yet you start wondering if you can trust your own sensations. You also wonder if you can trust your spouse’s declarations of love.
You thought they loved only you, and discover it was all a lie. Now, they say they love you again, but with what happened, you have some doubts.
Your spouse may feel relieved about finally coming clean. While they feel relieved, now you’re the one who’s feeling the pain. Each of you look at the admission of the affair from very different perspectives.
The husband wanted to know how to handle his wife asking for forgiveness. He’s torn. He wants for forgive her, and at the same time is still processing his pain and not ready to forgive.
It’s good that she admitted to the affair and asked for forgiveness. It’s not good that she waited so long before doing it.
Her delay in asking forgiveness didn’t put off any pain. If anything, it increased the burden and pain her husband is experiencing. Now, there’s years of lies instead of just a few covering a one night stand.
Should he forgive before he’s ready to, or shut the door on what happened like it never occurred? Is she really repentant?
Which wife should he believe, the one who lived the lie or the one asking for forgiveness? How can he be sure?
What should you do?
If he’d watched the video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear Down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” he’d have direction and answers in handling his situation.
You can find direction and answers to your forgiveness related questions with this video as well. Click and download your copy today, so that the two of you can know how to handle your situation.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
