It never ceases astonishing me seeing how far people will go in justifying an affair. I quit asking “How low can they go?” since someone always finds a new low.
One excuse that burns me up is when a Christian justifies having their affair claiming that it was okay because their spouse was an ‘unbeliever’. The whole double-message in such attitudes gives me the fantods.
It’s as if when someone is a non-believer they are treated as a non-person. The non-believers are treated more as objects than humans.
I was stunned when the wife of a Pastor I was under at one time, told me it was okay for her to leave her husband because he ‘was an unbeliever’. Her statement sent off a theological warning flare inside of me.
Although Scripture is very clear and plain on God’s view of divorce, apparently those verses don’t apply in her situation.
About the time I thought that was as low as it goes, a prominent pastor came out and took a doctrinal position supporting this same mindset.
When pastors and their spouses take the position that it’s acceptable to have affairs and divorce spouses when they are unbelievers I wonder what Bible they’ve been reading and what were they smoking when they read it.
Overcoming religious differences between spouses in marriage is one thing. Using Scripture in promoting infidelity totally violates and mocks Bible doctrine. If anything, the Bible promotes living with an unbelieving spouse rather than cheating on them. (If you want chapter and verse on this, write me and I’ll explain further).
It’s no wonder that many families are confused about affairs. When pastors condone adultery, it shouldn’t surprise them that their congregations are engaging in it.
A lesson I learned long ago is that children learn what they see more than what they are told. With the infidelity promoting pastors, the congregation learn from what the shepherd does more than what is preached.
The damage from affairs impacts believers and non-believers. There is no distinction in who hurts worse.
Adultery is still adultery whether those impacted are believers or non-believers. Being a believer doesn’t magically remove the stain of infidelity.
When you’re hurting from an affair and need help, the “Affair Recovery Workshop” gives you direction in making it through those times.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
2 Responses
Jesus cheaters are the worst! No way they are true believers. Just a method to impress others. Image is of upmost importance!
David,
I’ve never heard the term “Jesus cheaters”. That’s descriptive for those folks. They cheat in their marriage and their spirituality. True believers would grasp the seriousness of the situation.
Best Regards,
Jeff