Some time back, I went through a series of email addressing various threats to marriages presented as types of villains. There were home wreckers, poachers, seducers and creepers to name a few.
The names were descriptive and conveyed something about the kind of threat that each one posed to your marriage. The threats are real, and unforgiving.
Each of these type of people have unique styles and techniques in seducing spouses and launching affairs. They each have their own dangers and threats to your marriage.
Although I covered some of the aspects of creepers in some detail, one detail was their willing accomplice. Creepers only succeed when your spouse willingly goes along with them.
The cheater may be looking for excitement, something different or have other motives. Whatever their motive, playing with creepers is dangerous.
They use double-entendres, sexual innuendoes and suggestive talk as part of their way of creeping into your spouse’s head and pants. It’s not about entertainment, it’s about seduction.
I was reminded of this after reading an email sent to me. In it a husband shared, “She dances around the fact that she flirts with other men and makes sexual innuendos to other men, as well as talks about her panties to other men.”
Making sexual innuendoes with other men is playing with fire. Those kinds of activities incite passions.
Creepers know what they are doing, and use sexual innuendoes as open doors for seduction. Seduction always starts mentally before taking place physically.
His wife’s talk about her panties amounts to verbal exhibitionism. It creates vivid word pictures. Whether she just talked about her panties or sent them photos of her in them, the end results are the same.
The best rule to go by is that when you spouse feels uncomfortable with whatever kind of flirting is going on, then you’ve gone too far. In this case, she has gone too far, yet is either denying it or is oblivious to what’s happening, which is giving her the benefit of doubt.
In my mind, she knows what she’s doing. Her verbal play is exciting and stimulating. Granted a verbal affair is better than a physical one, yet once you start down the path of any affair, it’s a slippery slope.
The path to an affair is slippery and you always end up going further than you ever intended. In the case of creepers, that’s part of their whole plan. They want you in so deep, it’s too late to stop.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
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