Have you ever noticed the special glow that surrounds the subjects in many medieval paintings? Artists at those times used halos and light as ways of communicating the specialness of their subjects.
The artists used those techniques as a way of making their subjects stand out. You can easily identify the good guys and bad guys just by which ones are special in contrast to those who aren’t.
It’s not so easy these days seeing who is ‘special’ and who isn’t. You and I don’t see special glowing around much these days like the artists portrayed.
One of the effects of an affair on you is the loss of being special. Whether the cheater intentionally or unintentionally wants it, one of the effects of their actions is losing your special status.
You are no longer see as being special to them. They may tell you, yet their actions say otherwise.
On losing the status of being ‘special’ to your spouse, there is a sense of loss. Something is now missing from your marriage.
The affair demotes you. The affair also devalues your marriage relationship. It’s not only your special status that’s gone, so is the unique relationship you had with your spouse.
This puts you in a weird place. You want to think that your special, yet you’re not treated that way. You may tell yourself that you still have that status, yet you know that’s a lie.
It puts you in a position of having to believe something that you know isn’t true. It sets you up for a wild roller coaster ride of not being sure what is true and what isn’t true.
Who’d of thought that losing your special-ness could lead to such problems?
When it comes time for you to start recovering from the affair, a good place to start is with the support community at Restored Lifestyle. There you’ll find encouragement from others going through similar situations and facing similar challenges.
Best Regards,
Jeff
