This morning while reading through the latest news and research on infidelity, I came across mention of what I considered dangerous to marriages. There are therapists and workshops advocating couples to sleep around and be okay with it.
It occurred to me that many of the ideas I share would be considered dangerous to some people as well.
If you are seeking a lifetime of pleasure at the expense of family and relationships, then my ideas are definitely dangerous. If you are hedonistic and prefer living life without thinking about consequences and responsibility, these emails and posts are threats to your way of life.
If you believe that your job, or success is the most important thing in your life, my ideas are dangerous.
If you hold to the idea that you can love whoever you want to without consequences, my ideas are dangerous.
If you’re wanting a life filled with passion and don’t care about the secondary effects your passions have on others and consider morals an archaic way of thinking, this is not the place for you.
Ideas always have consequences. Good ideas have good consequences and bad ideas have bad consequences.
What’s considered dangerous or socially disruptive thinking depends on your ideas of marriage and relationship. It boils down to what your main goal in your marriage and life are.
These days, there are counselors who will tell you what you want to hear, no matter how unnatural it is or what the consequences will be. The ideas you surround yourself with shape your thinking. They shape what your goals are and how you go about reaching them.
These days dangerous is more about your perspective than about moral absolutes.
If, on the other hand, you want help with restoring families and relationships, you’re in the right place. If you believe there is a right and wrong and that husbands and wives should be committed to each other above all others, you’ll find direction and hope here.
I view affairs as dangerous to your marriage. They threaten the security and stability of the whole family. They’re destructive to real intimacy between a husband and wife.
I also believe that you can recover from them. An affair doesn’t mean your marriage is over, nor does it mean your life is over. You and your spouse can move past them.
Recovery from an affair threatens selfishness and irresponsibility. Recovery involves being less selfish, less irresponsible and less isolated.
Moving past the affair requires risking connection with your spouse and rebuilding your marriage relationship. Recovery risks opening up with your spouse and being vulnerable.
At the membership site Restored Lifestyle, I go into greater detail and depth on issues along with giving members access to programs on forgiveness, overcoming affair trauma and improving intimacy in their marriage.
If you prefer this kind of danger, then you’re in the right place.
Keeping it Real,
Jeff
