Can you recall what life was like before phones connected to the internet? Since they connected to the internet, users have immersed themselves in social networks, texts and emails.
Not only have many of you immersed yourself in connection, you find yourself feeling a sense of withdrawal when not connected. In some cases interactions with your phone are replacing your interaction with others.
Keep in mind that phones only connected to the internet about 12 years ago. In those few years, they have changed the way you live and interact. They’ve also changed accessibility to affairs and relationships.
Those connections have made affairs only a few clicks away. Anytime you have a fight with your spouse, they can find someone else in just a few clicks.
This means that disagreements are handled differently now compared to just thirteen or fourteen years. There is no longer the slamming of the doors and leaving to gather your thoughts.
While you are gathering your thoughts, your spouse is posting your fight on facebook. This is if you still take this approach.
With the connection of the phone, you may instead distract yourself. You no longer take time to think and consider what was said or what you did. The distraction means you are seeking connection before considering what you’re feeling.
At those moments, you’re vulnerable. You can find yourself knee deep in a relationship without much effort, even when it’s only an emotional relationship or seeking support. You are at risk for an affair as much as your spouse is.
These days, the connectivity of phones makes hook ups as easy as ordering pizza delivered. With a few clicks you can have hot pizza and a hot date delivered. Those old girlfriends and exes only take a few clicks to reactivate.
Since the connectivity issue is so new, you face the challenge of new temptations with an old mindset of how to handle things.
Chances are how you solve fights and conflicts with your spouse have not caught up with the technological jumps that have occurred.
If you’ve fallen to the temptation of connecting with others rather than working things out with your spouse, you’re at risk. You’ll want to consider the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery“.
You may resist claiming, but I didn’t cheat, although you went through the motions. You are closer to cheating than you may realize.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
