One of the topics that comes up when talking with my sons is that of psychology. Although they aren’t interested in going into the field, they approach me about ways of using the information it provides.
They tell me that using psychology is “cheating at life“. I don’t view it as cheating. For me it’s not only my vocation but a way of tuning into the hidden messages in everyday activities.
Things such as word choice and language used in expressing yourself provide clues about what you’re thinking and your approach to life. Tuning into what others are saying is also a skill improved with time and experience.
There are clues all around you when you’re aware of them. Take for example the voicemail greeting message of the lover or even of the cheater for that matter.
The greeting message provides clues about them that they are unaware of. Those messages give you insights concerning what kind of personality you’re dealing with along with insights regarding their self-focus.
You may have heard the message and thought little of it. In doing so, you missed out on valuable clues about them and the how threatening the affair is.
The more self-focused the lover, the greater threat they are to your marriage. There are many other clues around you alerting you to what’s going on that you may be missing as well.
One reason you miss them is that your focus in on your own pains rather than finding ways of dealing with your situation. One of the effects of pain is that it distracts you from potential clues about what’s going on.
If your pains, worries and anxieties are keeping you from noticing what’s going on, it’s letting you know that there are items needing your attention. One of those items is dealing with the effects of trauma in your life.
Until those symptoms and effects are settled down, your pain, obsession and worry will keep you from having focus and clarity.
One way of dealing with those symptoms is by purchasing the video ‘Overcoming Affair Trauma’. The video guides you in self-soothing so that you can calm down and your mind start noticing and dealing with important clues needed in recovering from the affair.
Purchase your copy today. You can regain focus and the ability to think again. The effects of Affair Trauma don’t have to keep you distracted any longer. Depending on the severity, you may find yourself listening to the material time and again.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
