A while back, I wrote a post on weasel words and affairs. From some of the responses I’ve seen lately, it’s time for a follow-up post on weasel words.
Let me start by pointing out that weasel words are designed for hiding the truth. It akin to your spouse giving you fake news in your own home.
They intentionally direct you away from the affair and what’s really going on. They distract and point you in the wrong direction.
With weasel words, you often hear what you want to hear. How this happens is that your emotions want to hear it so bad, that you read into what they say the message you’re craving.
It’s as if your own imagination is working against you. The weaseling person uses words that have meanings that can be taken several ways.
Using things like non-denial denials and by leaving their answers open to interpretation, the stage is set. In talking with them, you make assumptions about what they’re saying and what it means.
One way of moving past that is by asking them the simple question ‘What do you mean by that?’
The first few times you do this, they’ll be surprised. The question presses them for clear communication. They may initially resist it since it starts holding them accountable.
Cutting through the weasel words is essential in moving past the affair. Your marriage depends on being able to trust what they tell you. When you can’t trust what they say, any security in the relationship is out the window.
Clear communication is foundational for trust in your marriage relationship. It takes work in holding each other accountable and establishing clarity in your communication.
If your marriage relationship is filled with weaseling and weasel words, you can bet that things are being hidden. Those hidden dangers weaken your marriage.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
