Whenever loyalties are mixed, there are potential problems. Mixed loyalties are one of the major source of problems in blended families. Mixed loyalties are also a major source of problems with affairs. The mixed loyalty issue is easily seen when the adulterer (or adultress) is torn between their lover and their spouse. The mixed loyalties at that point are the inspiration for such terms as ‘home wrecker’ used in referring to the infidel or their lover. Although that is where the loyalty issue is seen, that is often not where it starts. infidels often make choices concerning their loyalties long before they are torn between their lover and their spouse. Although they may seem to be little choices at the time, the choices become a pattern where that culminated in the affair. These choices started when they quit placing their spouse as #1 in their hearts. When the choice is made to move the spouse out of their preeminent someone or something soon comes along to fill that position.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
