There are some questions about affairs that are unpleasant. Although part of me doesn’t enjoy the unpleasant aspect, I know it’s necessary.
One of those unpleasant questions is “Does infidelity lead to suicide?” Suicide is one of those topics that makes my stomach churn. Even though it’s unpleasant, those asking it are hurting and wanting answers.
I also know that those kinds of questions need straight-forward answers. You need clear answers to questions, even the unpleasant ones.
Although I can’t say that infidelity causes suicide, I can tell you there’s definitely a connection between infidelity and suicidal ideation. In fact, from my survey of couples experiencing infidelity, the number is roughly about 33%, although I wonder if it’s actually higher.
The one experiencing the ideation can be either the cheater or the betrayed. This isn’t an issue limited to one or the other.
There’s also a large number of self-cutting episodes. They aren’t suicidal, but they share a common theme of self-harm.
Threats of suicide are also a ploy used by some lovers in keeping the cheater hooked into the affair. Suicide is a powerful threat.
When the lover threatens suicide, it’s a desperate form of manipulation.
When suicidal thinking is with the betrayed or cheater, there’s a toxic mixture of guilt, blame, pain and the desire to run away from it all. I also know from the survey that you can make it past those dark thoughts.
The place to start removing those dark thoughts is with forgiveness. Keep in mind that it’s not about letting the cheater off the hook, the kind of forgiveness I’m talking about concerns you knowing effective ways of releasing the painful emotions and thoughts.
It’s a way of letting go of the pain. It’s starts releasing you from haunting memories and their scars.
In the video “Forgiveness: Stop Pain, tear down the walls and remove the roadblocks” guides you in navigating your way through that kind of forgiveness. Knowing an effective way of removing the pain gets you started.
As more pain comes along, you can once again use the techniques you’ve learned so that you don’t have to carry it around.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
