Being made a fool of is embarrassing. It’s even worse when the person making a fool of you is your own spouse with their affair.
Affairs are bad enough. When the affair goes on long enough for you to look foolish it makes the pain even worse. Your no longer a victim, but instead, the butt of jokes since you didn’t see what was obvious to others.
Although others may try comforting you with assurances about how your spouse made the bad choices, it does little in reducing the agony of being the last to know about the affair.
It’s not by accident that what’s known as the ‘sucker punch’ has many of the similar sensations. Being made a fool of typically feels like an emotional sucker punch delivered by your spouse.
The very person who supposed to have your back. They promised to love and cherish you and then ended up betraying you by doing what they did. What made it worse was that it took you a while to discover it.
Betrayal is always worsened when you’re made a fool of on top of it. It removes your dignity and self-respect. Had you known about it earlier you could have at least dealt with things behind closed doors.
When the affair becomes a public spectacle, it feels like your own failures are advertised for the world to see. That kind of spectacle turns the affair situation into a traumatic event.
Instead of the cheater looking foolish, you end up looking foolish.
The spectacle element creates a moment frozen in time where you are the butt of other’s jokes. Being made a fool of stuns you to the point where you totally unable to work on the affair.
If this sounds like you and your situation, then the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma” is something that you need in moving past what happened. With the tools presented, you’ll discover ways of getting unstuck and unfrozen.
You can move past this with a little help. You don’t have to stay stunned any longer.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
