Recent earthquakes remind me of the importance of dealing with aftershocks. With an earthquake, you assume that when the shaking stops that everything is fine. That quiet lull is temporary.
When everything is in motion, you appreciate the importance of stability. You want everything to “Just Stop Moving!” When everything’s in motion, there are no islands of safety.
Although I’ve never been through an earthquake, I have been through hurricanes and had close calls with earthquakes. With a hurricane, I eagerly looked forward to when the wind and rain finally stops.
The sense of relief that happens when everything is no longer moving around me left me feeling grounded and thankful for making it through. This is one of the danger that happen when the eye goes over. It brings a false lull in the action.
When the storm resumes or aftershocks happen, it all starts over again. The feelings of being out of control creep into your heart and head again.
When it comes to affairs, the aftershock may be months or years in coming. You may have made it through the initial recovery, yet still find the fears, thoughts, anxiety and hopelessness coming back into your life.
All it takes is a comment, look or finding some affair related item and you’re immediately back in the shake up. It could even be that things are going ‘too well’.
The cheater may be doing everything right, yet you still don’t feel right. You lost your peace of mind and it’s still not back. In the back of your mind, you still wonder how long things will last.
These aftershocks are reminders that you have some remnants of affair trauma continue working in your life. You may have put on your game face and made it through recovery thinking ‘all is well‘.
Even though you tell yourself that you ‘made it‘, the nagging thoughts in the back of your head and heart make any future still shaky.
When the aftershocks hit, and your marriage is suddenly shaky, you need to take the healing down to a deeper level. You made it through the initial recovery and now you need it deeper.
This is where the video on Overcoming Affair Trauma can help you with taking the healing to a deeper level in your life.
Consider what life will be like without the haunting fears still following you around. Click and download the video today. Although the affair is ‘over’ the symptoms, nightmares and fears still hang around.
You can do something about taking the affair out of your head and the fear out of your heart. Download the video today.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
