Although I haven’t seen many official statistics on the subject, one of the trends I’ve seen in looking at affairs is that there are links between medical conditions and affairs.
I have seen the statistics for divorce in such circumstances and the number is high. This means that whether or not an affair happens, the risk of divorce is higher when one spouse has a chronic medical condition.
As deplorable as it sounds, when you experience a medical condition, be it a disease, accident or even pregnancy, there are some spouses who give into temptations for an affair. They view your medical condition as an excuse for having an affair.
Rather that provide you with care and remain loyal, they instead indulge themselves. In some cases, you may have even given them a hall pass for doing so. There’s been many heartaches started with “I only want you to be happy.”
Affairs under such conditions happen more often than I’d like. Although common sense says stay with your spouse, they’re instead listening to something else whispering in their ears. They view the “wanting themselves to be happy” with renewed vigor, placing it ABOVE your needs.
I put these affairs in the same mental category of taking advantage of the handicapped. Those indulging in such affairs are viewing their needs ahead of their commitment to you.
Since my daughter in law recently gave birth to my first grand-daughter, I have little tolerance for husbands cheating on pregnant wives. I was reminded of the moodiness, yet that makes a weak excuse for infidelity.
At the time a wife needs him most is NOT the time for selfish indulgence.
When a reader brought up her being pregnant and her husband cheating on her, the recent events hit a raw nerve with me.
A common chorus heard in these situations is “but I have needs”. I realize you have needs. When there are medical conditions, it puts everyone in a bind. At those moments sacrifices are required in order to deal with out of the ordinary circumstances.
These circumstances put each of you in unusual binds. There are no easy ways out of such situations.
Such affairs hurt marriages and undermine their foundations. These kinds of affairs leave serious scars on your souls.
This is where the video program Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. It helps move your relationship back toward health. It guides the two of your through the challenging talks and honesty needed as part of recovery from what you’ve gone through.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
