Some of you who recently discovered an affair are surprised by the experience. I’m not talking about the whole shock and surprise of the affair, but rather the symptoms that come with the discovery.
Some readers express surprise at the physical symptoms that come with affair discovery. Not only are they surprised, the cheater is also surprised by the effect their actions have on their spouse.
Stomach pains, loss of sleep, difficulty concentrating and loss of appetite and pains are common symptoms. No matter what your mind tells you, your body is letting you know something is wrong and what happened was wrong.
Part of me wants to say to the cheater “What did you expect?” Some cheaters actually expect there to be no physical symptoms to what they did.
When your spouse who is such a vital part of your life cheats on you, there are effects in terms of symptoms. The severity of the symptoms vary in intensity and location.
The reality that actions have consequences, even though the cheater thought it was just between them and the AP.
As a counselor, the symptoms communicate to me important information about what issues the affair brings up along with how they are trying to come to grips with what happened.
Take for instance the nausea and vomiting reflex. These are among the common symptoms.
When they happen, the betrayed spouse’s body is communicating that they have taken something in that disagrees with them. They find the whole situation distasteful and disgusting.
Continued gastrointestinal issues occur as they start processing and coming to realize what happened. Your body is letting you know that there’s something toxic about what you discovered. It’s literally making you sick. Don’t be surprised if you struggle with the sensation of throwing up.
As the gastrointestinal issues continue, it interferes with your sleep and ability to take in the nutrients your body needs. Initially your body will compensate, yet the longer it goes on, the greater the impact it has on your health.
Sure, you can take pills and medications in helping you cope, but that does little to restore the functioning of your body. The affair needs to be dealt with rather than bypassed.
In the video “Getting Past the Affair Crisis“, I share with you ways of handling the initial shock and early days surrounding affair discovery. How you handle things will make a difference in the long run for your health and your marriage.
Rather than ignoring your symptoms, listen to them and take action today. Click and download the video. Within a few minutes, you’ll be starting your journey toward healing and affair recovery.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
