In some of my previous posts I commented that affairs are the painful gift that keeps on giving. This is a hard truth that you and I would rather not have to admit.
In reading through blog posts this morning, I was once again reminded of the pain and twisted situations that affairs bring. A wife shared about how her husband impregnated his AP.
Although she and her husband worked out an arrangement for dealing with the child situation, some other secondary ripple effects are continuing the pain in her life.
The latest pain coming from the now ended affair concerns his parents. They have been maintaining a relationship with their sons love child. Like typical grandparents, they have been giving them affection, attention and gifts.
This is where the natural affections of grandparents toward their grandchild create some awkward and painful situations. The natural affections are creating unnatural hurts.
Affairs twist good things into painful ones. It takes healthy relationships and puts them in a strange new light.
There’s nothing wrong with grandparents loving their grandchildren and being a part of their lives. When an affair puts a wrinkle in things, it bends the relationship in some unusual directions and creates unnatural emotional reactions.
Those new strains put new burdens on you. Although the child did nothing wrong, the situation is an awkward one. You face many choices about how you’re going to deal with it.
When resentments start building, it’s a good sign that there are some emotional issues needing attention. This is where you need some serious forgiveness. The kind of forgiveness I’m talking about involves letting go of the negative emotional reactions.
Although the affair is over, there’s still the matter of dealing with the fallout that came with it. Situations like this one wouldn’t normally cause any problems, yet when an affair is part of things, it gets really weird really fast.
In the video, “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” I guide you through techniques that help you let go of painful or awkward emotions.
You’re not a bad person for having those feelings. You are dealing with some unnatural twists that came with the affair. Now you have to clean up more of the effects of the affair.
Click and download your copy of the video today. You don’t have to struggle through those weird situations with negative emotions.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
