A post from one of my friends on facebook struck a chord with me. His wife has some long-term health problems which they are very private about. Knowing her condition, he admitted that he considered many worst-case scenario situations and how he’d deal with them.
Eventually, he encountered one of those scenarios. His planning for it enabled him to navigate through it. When it happened, he was mentally ready for it.
When dealing with an affair, one of the worst-case scenarios for consideration is facing divorce. Although divorce is a worst-case situation, there are even questions then that you likely haven’t considered.
One of those scenarios is the question of whether or not you should be honest and tell friends and family the real issues leading to your situation. Your spouse and others often pressure you as the betrayed into staying silent.
At those times of emotional vulnerability, you are more susceptible to the pressure of those around you. You need their support so, at those moments, their choices shape what you do.
Once again the cheater is taking a path that cheats the consequences. This time, they attempt to avoid the stigma of the affair. They may even enlist counselors or pastors in supporting their position.
It amounts to mafia-like coercion. They use threats and guilt in forcing your silence. Although they’re well-meaning, the forced silence only compounds the traumatic effects of the affair rather than lessening them.
If you choose remaining silent of your own accord, that’s one thing. Some of you want your personal life private, even when bad things happen.
On the other hand, when silence is being coerced, it’s a manipulation. In such cases, there’s healing in facing the truth. You faced a hard truth.
The stigma of the affair is one stain that the cheater needs to continue wearing. They need to face the truth of what happened as well. When your silence comes as a consequence of threats or being traumatized, telling the truth brings healing.
Others don’t need all the details, but they don’t need deception and manipulation either.
Do you want to get past the trauma of an affair?
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
