On occasion I come across articles related to affairs that inspire hope. The article I’m referring to is one that appeared at Investor’s Business Daily dealing with the fiduciary issues related to divorce.
It reminded financial advisors that they have responsibilities to each of you. Although they have those responsibilities, I recognize it doesn’t automatically mean that the financial advisors will fulfill those responsibilities.
Affairs create friction in the marriage while putting each of you at cross-purposes concerning financial goals. You may value security, while the cheater wants self-improvement. Having different goals takes the family finances in opposite directions.
Your financial advisor is then saddled with a horse going in two different directions. It also means that not only are there loyalty issues with your friends and family, there are also concerns regarding insurance and financial planning.
Those financial people are also facing challenges in whose interest they need to focus on. This means you need to be sure of their loyalties when your marriage is in jeopardy.
In my mind, this is another example how the old saying about affairs being “between two adults” is proven wrong again. When your relationships spill over into the financial security of the family and your family’s health, it’s not just between two adults.
Affairs aren’t recreational activity for adults. They have serious repercussions in more areas that you imagine. Finances is just one of those areas. There’s also child custody, child health care, insurance and other issues as well.
Although the cheater focuses on immediate gratification of their desires, the ripple effect of their actions touch a bigger circle of people than they initially assumed.
I’ve seen how affairs have a huge blast radius beyond what anyone involved thought possible. This is one of the reasons I want to help you and your spouse through this time.
In the downloadable video workshop entitled “Affair Recovery Workshop”, I cover many of the important areas both of you need to consider whether the two of you stay together or not.
The reality is that the two of you will still need to be talking to each other. The resentments and realities aren’t going to vanish on their own. They require action on your part.
I understand how you hate what happened and its effects. You face choices about whether you’re going to let that keep you down or move on with life.
The workshop can help you know what kinds of changes are needed that bring results.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
