There are things you can do to help your marriage stay strong. Doing affair recovery by yourself is risky. Although the world tells you that you can do it by yourself, the reality is that it leads to mistakes and miscalculations about restoring your marriage relationship after there’s been an affair.
Your mind plays tricks on you when you do it by yourself. Asking for and reaching out for help is always a good idea. You’ll need an objective opinion, awareness of blind spots, encouragement and someone to cry with you during affair recovery. You also need someone to point out triggers that you react to without realizing it. These are things you can’t do by yourself. Asking for and obtaining help assists you in seeing things objectively and identifying what needs correcting.
It takes an entire community to support someone trying to overcome their affairs. A partner who chooses not to work on themselves disqualifies themselves from being part of that support system.
That’s one of the rules. Lying, cheating and refusing to take responsibility for their affairs disqualify a spouse from being part of the recovery effort. They need rigorous honesty with themselves and with you. They also need to take ownership of their affair and the pain it caused.
Their own pride makes it hard to comprehend or understand your pain. They don’t grasp the hurts that accompany rejection and abandonment they contributed to. They don’t get that the one person you thought you could count on was not available for you. They don’t understand how it feels to love someone who is no longer there for you.
“You need an objective opinion, awareness of blind spots, encouragement and someone to cry with you during affair recovery.”
Affair recovery can be lonely. When going through that loneliness, you face the temptation of giving in just to end the loneliness. This leads to making decisions based on your immediate emotional experiences rather than what is best for your marriage.
The danger of attempting affair recovery alone is at its highest when it comes to dealing with the dangers of affair relapse.
Affair relapse is one of the biggest threats to your recovery. When you don’t see the potential dangers, you fall prey to them.
Making sure that everyone involved in helping you through affair recovery does so with personal integrity is crucial. You need honesty when it comes to identifying triggers, high-risk situations and developing your plan for dealing with those threats.
You also need an awareness of patterns that you may not see when going it alone.
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