In overcoming an affair, there are many questions concerning time. Time is an issue of great importance. Questions arise as to “How long should I give them?”, “How long will it take?” “When will things get better?” and “When will it be over?”. All of these are valid questions. My experience is that each situation has unique issues that lead to different answers to those questions.
One of the time questions I do have an answer to is “Does time heal all wounds?” If you are doing something along with giving it time, it does bring healing. If you are counting on time alone to make things different, it won’t happen. You will only be older and dealing with the same issue compounded due to the effects of time.
It does take time to heal. It also takes time to think. Since those items require time, you may not want to be too hasty in setting unrealistic time deadlines. Both you and your partner will need time. The amount of time depends on the kinds of issues that the both of you are dealing with. During your time of recovery make sure to make some time for yourself. If you keep yourself so busy that there is no time to think, you are stalling.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
