Have you as a cheater considered your escape plan? You have likely thought out all kinds of ways to start an affair, but have probably not considered “How do I escape the affair?” or even “When should I escape?” or “Can I escape this?” You may not have thought of these questions until it was too late, even though these are questions that could save your marriage or even save your life.
The reality is that all affairs end in death. It may be the death of a relationship, emotions, spiritual life or even physical death. It will take a death to truly end what you have begun. That is a harsh way of looking at it, but it is the truth. Your lover may not want to let go or have any intention of letting go. You need to consider this in terms of you, and your family. Your lover may have no intention of accommodating/making room for your family, or they may have every intention of making your family their family. Either way, you have problems.
The BIG question for you now is, when are you going to take action? You need to find an escape plan now. Your life and your families lives depend on it. Your mental, emotional and spiritual health depend on it. The opportunities for you to escape only shrink each passing day.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
One Response
I’m going to comment about something in your post–and other posts, but not on the topic.
It’s about the term “lover.”
Betrayed spouses HATE that term–perhaps most especially because it is not a true term.
I am my husband’s lover. Society has taken a term that includes love and uses it to reference something profane and for some betrayed spouses it’s just another hurt to add to the pile of adultery pain.
Call the person Other Man/Woman/Person (OM, OW, OP), alienator, affair partner, mate predator… but one thing I told the alienator when I spoke to her on the phone for a lengthy conversation was that she never had and never would be able to make love to my husband. What they had was sex and love had no part of it.
Oh and another term that I can’t stand and others have said they feel this way too: “mistress,” which also means the female head of a household. Mistress feels like a somehow accepted extra-relationship rather than infidelitous, so the term dilutes the meaning and idea.