In dealing with affairs, I often encounter those who insist that their swapping and polyamorous lifestyles are healthy and ‘natural’. They espouse the reasons for their positions, and justify their choices.
Although the discussions are lively, when they get honest, those lifestyles are filled with confusion, torn loyalties, emotional binges, and insecurities. The emotional price tag for such choices has many large costs that are often hidden from the public.
The simple truth is that ‘infidelity is infidelity’ pure and simple. No matter how it is packaged and relabeled, one cannot escape the consequences of such choices.
The insecurity, emotional turmoil, torn loyalties risk of health issues and lies that go with such choices can’t be escaped. The jealous and angry reactions still arise when spouses devote time and attention to others despite all the claims about the ‘openness’ of the relationship.
There’s also the many issues that come with torn loyalties. When there are disagreements between participants, is your loyalty to your spouse or to the persons you just made love to?
Torn loyalties also put you into an emotional bind. You feel torn because emotional bonds have formed. When those bonds restrict your actions and decisions, you experience the sensation of being ‘torn’.
Even the word ‘polyamory’ itself is an unnatural blend of Greek and Latin words. They have been spliced in order to express modern sentiments, not because the word has ancient origins.
The wild party eventually comes to an end and someone has to clean up and live with the messes it produces.
If you are looking for a help in leaving the polyamory lifestyle, the ‘Restored Lifestyle’ support community has resources and helps to assist you.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
