One of the weird things that I have encountered with affairs is the strong similarities between the infidels spouse and the lover. Although they may deny it, the choice in lover often reveals hidden needs. When the lover look like the spouse, though perhaps a younger, sexier version, the choice indicates that they really do love their spouse, although they have trouble loving the present day version of the spouse. Making close observations of the lover can tell you more than you ever imagined, when you know what to look for. Most of the time, the spouse reacts strongly to the lover out of an “it’s not me!” mentality, even though on closer observation, it is a version of ‘me’. Spouses often have to ask someone close to them to make observations, since they are too close to see such similarities.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
