Many couples wait until the damage is massive before they decide to work on their marriage. After the spirit of oneness and tenderness is destroyed, they wonder if they can ever get that back. They delay taking action until the pain reaches a level which they can no longer tolerate. The time to take action is when there is distance in the relationship, not when the pain becomes unbearable. The choice of using pain as their barometer of action rather than distance in their relationship is a fatal one. It is important in responding to the issues to respond when there are changes in the distance rather than after people take action like an affair to make that distance permanent.
Typically when people ask “Is there any hope?”, they have waited until the pain is intense and unbearable. They are wanting a magic cure that will ‘zap’ their marriage back to the earlier days. Deciding to wait until the pain became unbearable is part of the problem that got them to where they are at. Rather than asking such questions, they need to be at work correcting how they relate to their spouse.
Rather than ask the question-TAKE ACTION! Do something to improve your marriage now!
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
