I hope your Christmas celebration went well. Holidays can bring out both the best and the worst in people. The Christmas holidays are known for extreme highs and lows in terms of human behavior.
With this in mind, I came across a thought-provoking article in the Huffington Post. The article talked about a trend called ‘half-night stands’. The ‘half-night stand’ is when a person hooks up for the encounter and then leaves, going home to their own bed.
The term ‘half-night stand’ is used in order to distinguish it from one-night stands. It seems that one-night stands have awkward moments when you wake up and have to face the person you slept with the next morning, along with the ‘walk of shame’. The author of the article pointed out that in modern society we live in a ‘swipe culture’ where you hook up then move on to the next encounter. There is a certain level of detachment that goes along with this type of modern relationship.
I see the half-night stand as a watering down and de-stigmatizing sleeping around. When you have major news organizations promoting and presenting such ideas, its’ little wonder that affairs are so widespread. In today’s politically correct culture, many terms are watered down or de-stigmatized in order to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings. I still like having honest names for behaviors. There are some behaviors that need a stigma associated with them.
Somehow when you have a nice-sounding title you can attach to aberrant behavior, it makes it acceptable and explainable. It also becomes their expression of ‘freedom’. It also pushes young people out the door by making such behavior sound trendy. Since some hipsters follow what seems cool just for the sake of following the crowd or the latest tik-tok challenge this new trend of ‘half-night stands’ is dangerous on multiple levels.
I welcome hearing your thoughts on the new trendy term ‘half-night stands’.
Cheaters often manufacture many reasons to cheat. I find that they often cheat, they find a reason for it afterwards, rather than have a reason, followed by the cheating. If you want to understand more about some of the drivers of cheating, the ebook, ‘Why He Cheats’ addresses this topic.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
