One of the essential items for me to have when reading research, books, or articles is a pen. Over the years I’ve found them helping in making notations, underlining, and highlighting items for my own takeaway. This practice helps me dissect and make sense of the material I read.
One takeaway from a recent article concerned a quote from Dr. James Wright. The article discussed research done with a group of over 600 couples. The research found a disturbing trend in couples seeking marriage counseling.
Dr. Wright stated “the counseling profession too frequently tries to help their clients through divorce rather than help them repair their marriages.”
His statement didn’t shock me. Instead, it validated some of my own observations. It also underscored my sentiment that “it makes a difference who you see for marriage help.”
Helping couples through divorce is easier than helping them solve their differences and work it out.
His statement definitely applies to getting help for your marriage after an affair. In such cases, what you assumed was marriage counseling ended up being divorce counseling.
This practice fits in with the disposable mindset that runs rampant in today’s society. It’s gone beyond disposable diapers and fast food. Now it’s your marriage that’s under threat of being disposed of.
The takeaway from this article is to seek out assistance from a marriage counselor who will genuinely work with you in repairing your marriage. You can’t always tell if a counseling session or therapy session is going through the motions or trying to get you divorced just by listening, but it’s important that you be aware of the possibility.
Fortunately, there have been some voices speaking up for helping couples like you save your marriage, even after an affair. One was John Bradshaw who posed the question “Are you throwing away a perfectly good marriage?”
Apparently, it’s more profitable for some in the counseling profession to join the lawyers and courts in the profitable journey to divorce court. They know that there’s more money to be made in the break-up of your marriage than in salvaging it.
I want your marriage to make it. I want you to make it through the affair.
If you want ways of salvaging your marriage after the affair, you’ve come to the right place. In the Affair Recovery Workshop, I guide both of you through the areas needing additional help and changes.
You don’t have to throw away a perfectly good marriage. Instead, you can know what to change and how to change it in order to make it through the challenges brought into your life by the affair.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
