Anytime you hear the phrase “That was awkward”, it alerts you to weirdness going on. Affairs are bad enough without the addition of awkward moments and the weirdness they bring.
Affairs put you and your family in some unnatural situations. Even if you refuse to view affairs as immoral, you still have to admit they’re unnatural.
This is especially true when it comes to deciding how to handle the situation. Do you choose to ignore the affair and hope it goes away? Or do you confront the person who’s having the affair?
No matter which course of action you take, it can be a difficult and awkward situation.
One of the unnatural aspects that affairs bring is those ‘awkward’ moments. One I heard of recently concerned a betrayed spouse.
She found herself in the position of being called by the parents of the AP (lover). Although the call was one where they apologized for the AP (lover), it was weird.
Rather than the AP showing maturity or adult qualities, others spoke up for her. For me, it’s another reminder of how unrealistic it is to expect those caught up in cheating to accept responsibility for their actions.
Being called by those not directly involved in the affair signals that there are unhealthy relationships and communication patterns involved as well. Unhealthy relationships lead to unhealthy choices.
In the end, it’s up to you to decide how to handle these awkward and potentially uncomfortable situations. Do your best to remember that no matter what decision you make, it will be difficult and may even cause more drama. There may not be a perfect solution. Instead you may have to settle for what is workable.
Those caught up in the unhealthy and unnatural don’t see what they’re doing as abnormal in any way. They’ve gotten so used to dysfunction, it’s natural to them.
They live in a different world with different rules than you live by. Trying to talk with them produces frustration and more awkwardness.
The awkwardness shows up with you thinking you’re the one going crazy when in reality, they’re so twisted in terms of what’s natural and unnatural they see nothing wrong with what they’re doing.
Rather than figuring them out, this is a time when you need to keep your own head on straight. At those times when awkward situations happen, you need to recognize them for what they are.
Acknowledge the awkwardness and then move on. Don’t linger in that space because it’s not a place you want to stay for long.
When you experience those awkward moments, remember this: Unhealthy relationships cause unhealthy choices, and no matter how uncomfortable they may be, you can move past them with your head being clear. It is possible to move past them.
This is where the video “Getting Past the Affair Crisis” comes in. It guides you through ways of keeping your focus when faced with unnatural and dysfunctional affair situations.
Healing starts from the inside out. Find ways of taking care of yourself when faced with the chaos of dysfunction that affairs bring.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
