Although I’m not a big enough fan of tattoos to get one, I find their artistry fascinating. From the first one I remember seeing on my Great Uncle of a black panther on his forearm, they’ve been intriguing.
Tattoos are used for many purposes, self-expression, identification, bonding, and remembrance. It’s when you add time to the tattoo that things turn sideways.
Whatever your original intention was, time and circumstances have ways of changing the meaning behind them. When the meanings change, the tattoos aren’t so easily changed as well
I addressed the connection between trauma and tattoos in a special report I put out several years ago. So, it’s time I touched on the topic of tattoos again.
When your spouse has an affair, it changes the meaning of your tattoo. What was once a source of identification and pride turns into a painful reminder of unpleasantness.
When your spouse doesn’t value their marriage to you, the association you have with the tattoo and them changes its value as well. Although you can have the tattoo modified or removed, the scar is still there reminding you of what you once had and lost.
Not all tattoos lose their meaning over time, but the ones that do can have a profound impact on the way you view yourself. When it comes to trauma and tattoos, there are no easy answers. But with proper support and understanding, those who carry these tattoos can still find a sense of worth and purpose within themselves.
Modifying the tattoo doesn’t quickly change your relationship or your feelings. Although there are things it doesn’t change, the modifying sends a message. It tells your spouse and yourself that something has changed in a major way.
Much like the tattoo is permanent, the change is a long-lasting one as well. I sometimes wonder if the tattoo in some ways represents your heart and the scars it carries from what happened. Almost as if the hurts on your insides are being displayed on the outside.
The kind of healing you need after going through the trauma that comes with many affairs is on the inside. Just changing what’s on the outside is window dressing.
The lasting change that makes a difference starts on the inside. In my video on “Overcoming Affair Trauma”, I take you through ways of healing from the pains of the trauma. It’s important to take care of yourself and allow your heart to heal.
The memories of the affair may always linger, but that doesn’t mean that the scars it left behind have to define you. Moving forward in life is possible when you create healthy coping mechanisms and don’t let the trauma determine your course.
Although the tattoo remains, the scars on your heart can heal. It’s important that you are able to move past the pain. With the video, you can know productive ways for doing it.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
