Have you ever considered the connection between multi-taking and affairs? Given the prevalence of multitasking going on, this topic needs further attention. You may even be one of those who said to yourself “Jeff, I have a business to run. I must multitask. I have to do several projects at once. I must stay competitive. You just don’t understand”.
I’ll be the first to admit that I likely don’t understand your business. What I do understand is how your brain works. The wiring of brains is not designed for doing multiple tasks at the same time. Brain researchers, like Harold Pashler, have looked into ‘Dual-Task Interference’ (e.g. multitasking) and made some discoveries.
What they discovered is that your brain can only do one task at a time. You can only really think about one thing at a time. The way your neurons work, which make up your brain, they only process one task at a time. So although you thought you were doing so many activities well at the same time, the reality was your brain only focused on one of them at a time.
This means all the talk about loving two people at the same time is ‘hogwash’. You only focus on one at a time. This is just the simple reality behind the biological wiring of neurons. This means that the old Oak Ridge Boys song about how trying to love two women is like a ball and chain was accurate on many levels. The Oak Ridge Boys were right.
When it comes to affairs, it means you can only focus on one relationship at a time. Cheaters thinking they can juggle two lovers at once are fooling themselves. Sure they may desire or lust after both, yet they can only love one at a time. In the cheater’s mind, there’s constant switching from one lover to the other, or one task to another. Thinking you can love two people at once is fooling yourself.
When you’re multitasking relationships you may think you’re special. You falsely assume you have a ‘special ability when it comes to multitasking. The reality is your mind can’t handle it. Your body may handle it for a while, but eventually, the truth will come out that your body can’t handle two relationships at once either. The juggling of multitasking will catch up with you. Rather than your mind and body collapsing from exhaustion, you can do something about it now.
Start facing reality by ordering the “Affair Recovery Workshop” and start healing your marriage. Trying to hold onto that other relationship will end up hurting you in the long run.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
