One of the buzzwords now in circulation in popular culture is “Call out culture” or “cancel culture”. Although the term itself is new, the idea behind it has been around for centuries.
I know from personal experience about being cancelled from social media sites due to taking stand and speaking out against today’s infidelity culture. It reminded me of when I was sent to the principal’s office back in Elementary School.
The thinking behind ‘cancel culture’ is that when someone says, does or tweets a controversial comment they are called out or cancelled. Rather than address the controversy behind it, the choice is made to cancel or eliminate them.
The problem with this type of thinking is that it can be widely seen as an act of censorship. When we are not allowed to express our opinions in fear of being cancelled, it can cause detrimental effects on our mental health and also silence discourse about controversial topics that need to be discussed. Sadly, the cancel culture is stifling free speech.
In the days of ancient Greece, this was known as “ostracizing”. Rather than deal with the unpleasant matter, the leaders of Greek society booted them out. Kicking out the troublemakers, they thought it would solve things. Even Scripture talks about how when you remove a scorner, trouble diminishes. This works in many cases, yet when the troublemaker is your spouse, it complicates things.
When it comes to affairs, using the cancel option is tempting. You may wish you could cancel out or even remove unpleasant things the affair brings into your life.
Among those unpleasant things they bring into your life are self-doubt, loss of self-confidence, and a sense of finding out you’ve been living a lie. When things like that come into your life, I understand the temptation of wanting to cancel them out and doing it as fast as possible.
At such times, I recall the warning given to me by Robert Magee about how anything that gets you out of pain fast is potentially addictive. In fact, the faster the pain goes away, the greater the potential for addiction.
Removing or cancelling out the pain won’t heal the wounds. It may stop the pain from recurring, but it doesn’t bring healing. It also leads you toward fixing the wrong problem. The pain is alerting you to a problem needing your attention. When that pain is your marriage, it means you and your spouse have some changes to make. Pain is the motivator in making changes. Rather than cancelling out the pain, consider what it’s telling you needs changing.
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The concept of “cancel culture” has sparked debates and discussions in the online world, as well as in academic circles. Some argue that it promotes accountability and holds individuals or organizations responsible for their actions. Others criticize it for being too quick to judge and punish without allowing for open communication and growth.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
