Category: Emotional Recovery
The Problem with Cancel Culture
One of the buzzwords now in circulation in popular culture is “Call out culture” or “cancel culture”. Although the term itself is new, the idea behind it has been
Is Adultery an Unforgivable Sin?
With regularity, the subject of ‘the sin of infidelity’ comes up. Like clockwork, there are always some who want to know if it’s a sin. I can understand this
Cheerleader Enthusiasm
In getting through crises, it always helps to hear an encouraging “you can make it through this” from someone who’s been there. When I’ve been in the middle of
How to get the stains out of your marriage
When my favorite articles of clothing get stained it puts me in a dilemma. I know my wife would tell me to ‘get rid of it.’ There’s something inside
Emotional Lyme Disease
Have you considered how you’d react if all the symptoms of Affair Trauma hit you at once? If those symptoms were acute, showing up overnight, you’d be concerned. Think
“How could I be so stupid?”
Today’s email is directed more at the betrayer than the betrayed. Although many betrayers aren’t initially hurting bad enough to seek help, some are. When you’re hurting bad enough
Healthcare Crisis Affairs
Lately one of the common factors I hear about with some affairs is hospital and health crises. This happens when your attention is distracted by the hospital or health
The Post-Affair Breakdown
About the time I think I’m near catching up on responding to questions coming in, a new one arrives. This time a reader wants to know “Can I have
Letting Go of Control
Letting go of triggers and obsessions related to the affair requires some skill. It takes work to identify the internal and external triggers. It requires paying attention to what
What Couples Avoid Talking About
Once you see “What’s behind the curtain” or what is behind the scenes, you view things differently. When I started out as a therapist, I often talked with older,
